Bury

It is not easy to bury those you love. You, dear widow, you may not want to feel simple without him by your side. But I'm here to tell you, you can and you will. If I can do it, so can you.

Here are my three tips to get you through your grief process:

1. Expect the unexpected - which is important. So listen carefully. When someone says something that causes pain, take (and they will, I know) or the grief triggered (push and it will, I promise), but a big step back, breathe deeply, breathe out. Do it again. Do it often. The act of deep breathing helps to calm and to calm nerves bare. And it is a distraction, as you are acting work through your pain.

Then keep a pen and notebook (Make sure these two things) to carry around everywhere and write your feelings down. Therefore, their thoughts on paper before the mouth helps the brain to wrap around the fact that your husband will never open again. And it can prevent you from speaking or speak unkindly to someone who simply does not understand and probably will never do. Of course there is this curious blunt, people need to be carefully placed in his stead. But until you are in tune with your feelings, go slowly, and a thick pencil.

2nd Be prepared for any / all / nothing - you will have good days. These are the days you can work through your grief and can hold your head high. You have bad days. These are the days can not stop crying, and you just want to pull the covers over your head and not out of bed. And there will be days in between. One minute, the next minute. Relax. Back to Tip # 1

3rd Allow you to provide authorization - adjusting to life without him by your side is difficult. There is no right way, no wrong way to ensure the best friend you ever had. There is only one way forward.

4. Reach Out and Touch someone - Do not be afraid to reach you to a counselor, a rabbi, a minister or priest for guidance and advice.

Okay. There are more than 3 advice. But as I mentioned in tip # 1, expect the unexpected.

It is not easy to lose your soul mate. I know. But if you follow my tips above, you will succeed. If I can do it, so can you.